This fall I jumped back in to a Ladies Bible Study group. It’s been a few years since I’ve committed to a group study. I’ve missed it. Although my time away from group study was needed for my personal growth and relationship with God, it really is good to be back. I am also excited about the opportunity to focus in on a particular topic. The study we are working through is Comparison Trap by Andy and Sandra Stanley.
This happens to be the absolute perfect topic for me start back with. It has been convicting from the first words! As much as I love a good, convicting study…I can’t lie it is messing me up (in a good way)! My mind and heart have been racing trying to understanding what it is God is telling me already after just week one.
The first week was on awareness. Let me tell you I am now entirely aware that I have a comparison problem…sad yes, true, yes. We all have areas of struggle and for me body image, kids accomplishments, and home (materialism) are right up at the top along with others close behind.
Today was began week two and our topic was value. The words value and worth hit me deep in my soul every single time. I have struggled through feelings of self worth(lessness) for many years. Today especially I woke up and already felt like a failure because I didn’t have as many Fitbit steps as I thought I should. As motivating as my Fitbit is…I think its becoming a self worth problem. But this is not even the issue I wanted to write about today. This is how widespread this comparison issue is in our lives.
Last week in one of our daily lessons a practical application was to begin each day thanking God for something, anything. I personally felt compelled to thank him for at least one positive characteristic in each of my children. Today Andy expressed the importance of realizing that no one person or no one thing will ever determine our value. God compares us to NO-ONE. We have to realize the truth that our worth can only come from God.
This led me to realize that as a mother I want my children to know not only how much they are loved by me, but more importantly by God. I have seen first hand how a simple word of encouragement and feeling of worth can completely change a perspective and behavior.
Two years ago our son endured a long and difficult school year. He constantly felt worthless, never good enough. It was affecting his school work, his attitude at home, his behavior, his motivation, his eating habits, everything…he was a hot mess. After months of prayer and counseling (and coincidentally an end to the school year), we switched gears. It was like a light-bulb went off and we realized exactly what he needed. Our son is smart, kind, helpful, capable, handsome, funny, loving, caring and VALUED! And he needed to hear it and feel it. So we began telling him and reminding him that we not only see these things in him, but God does as well. He created him purposefully and completely unique. We became proactive and started building him up, reminding him of the truth and squashing the lies he thought about himself.We saw a complete transformation in our son. He now realizes those things, but also acts on them and is making choices to serve others because he knows God calls him to do that. He just simply needed to replace all those lies he thought about himself with the truth. His value, my value, your value comes from none other than God alone!
So…at the end of the study today Sandra Stanley challenged us to find a scripture to memorize and a song with encouraging lyrics to remind us of our value in Jesus. If you listen to Christian radio you might have heard the the son Priceless by For King and Country. If not, listen here…it pretty much just sums it all up. #truth